Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Wasn't Meant to Be

If you follow me on Twitter, you may have seen my family has had some bad things happen this week. I will talk about them more later. But something else happened that I didn't post about there. I wanted to talk about it here, though. And I will tell you about the rest (which seem minor compared to this...at least for me) later.



My sister, Rachel, whom I love and adore is going through a terrible thing right now. She went to her OB appointment for her 18 week check up. Instead of finding out whether they were having a boy or girl, they found out there there is no heartbeat anymore.



They lost the baby.



She called me shortly after she found out. She was devastated. So was I.



But this sister of mine, she is awesome. She has grieved, and she is OK with it. Really! She is. She knows that God is there to comfort her. She isn't questioning why it happened. She's just dealing with it. I'm constantly amazed at the wonderful woman that my sister is.



They don't know what caused this to happen. Nothing apparent as of now. She never suspected any problems. Never even knew anything was wrong.



Today Rachel is at the hospital. They are hoping she can deliver the baby. It not, they will do a D&C. It's been a few hours since I last spoke to her. But she's a trooper and doing well. They will keep her overnight. We're just hoping things will go perfectly for her, and have the best case scenario happen.



She's asked for me to come up to visit at the hospital this evening. Hopefully it will all be over by then. She knows her husband might need some support or a break. And other people might be stopping in, so I can help by being crowd controller. Or I can just help to take her mind off of things.



They've told her different things there, and she has some tough choices to make. To hold the baby or not. To find out whether it's a boy or girl or not. To take pictures or not. To get footprints or not. To bury or not. To donate for research or not. And some of these choices might not be hers to make.


More to come later...

17 comments:

The Workman Family said...
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d e v a n said...

OMg, I'm so sorry. ((hug)) for your family and especially your sister.

nevermelts said...

I'm so sorry :(

CAQuincy said...

Words fail me. Tell your sister this total stranger feels for her. And you. :-(

kristi said...

This is very sad. My sister suffered a miscarriage but eventually had 2 healthy kiddoes. Hugs to you and your sister.

Emily said...

I'm so sorry to hear this - how incredibly sad and hard to understand. We'll be praying for her and your whole family....

Shannon said...

I'm sooo sorry. We lost a baby at 24 weeks and it was so incredibly tough. I'll be thinking of all of you today.

Kristi said...

I'm sorry. Your sister sounds like a very strong and wonderful woman. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending lots of virtual hugs!

andria said...

So sorry for all of you.

desperate housewife said...

Oh, I am so incredibly sorry. Miscarriages are bad enough- I can't even imagine the pain of losing a baby at this stage. I will be praying for you all, and praying as well that they can identify what caused this so that your sister and her husband will never have to go through it again.
BIG hugs.

Nowheymama said...

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you all.

Jana said...

I am so sorry for your sister's and your loss. I can't even imagine the pain she and you must be going through. You guys are in my prayers....

ts2sn said...

My prayers are with you, your sister, and families.

Shelly Overlook said...

So very sorry.

Kelsey said...

I'm so sorry. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

Sara said...

I am so sorry. This post (and the questions) brings back sad memories of my niece, who was full-term stillborn. I will be thinking of you and your family.

bluedaisy said...

I am so sorry to hear this and I wish your sister, her husband and your family much strength during this difficult time.