Monday, August 24, 2009

It Did Get Better

I was worried that the way we started our week last week, that it might be a rough one. Time to batten down the hatches, keep your valuables hidden, and get ready for a battle of the wills.

Monday I had to take a step back from the situation and make sure that I wasn't overreacting or causing the problems myself. The answer, surprisingly no. I was in a fine mood, I was being more patient than I usually am when my 3 year old acts like a tyrant. Shocking, I know.

So now I knew it wasn't me, it was the kid. I don't know what started it, maybe he woke up on the wrong side of the bed (which is entirely impossible since his bed is in a corner of his room). My guess is he was having a "I'm 3" day. And if you've had (or currently have) a 3 year old, I think you know what I mean. (If you don't, be quiet!)

But we made it through the day. Matt brought home chocolate when he read my post. What a good husband. It really did help.

The rest of the week was better. Of course there were a few times when the bad behavior reared it's ugly head, but for the most part it wasn't as bad as Monday had been.

And I have to say that yesterday was a great day as far as Zachariah's attitude. I think most of it was Matt to be honest. He was really calm with Zac (way more than normal). He spoke to him on his level when it was necessary, and he played and spent time with him. I was shocked at the difference in Zachariah's behavior due to this. Then when I got him ready for bed, he started acting up. I calmed myself down and tried again, what a difference it makes. I know that I need to make an effort to be more calm with him.

I think too often I expect too much out of him (for a 3 year old), and when those expectations aren't met I get upset. I need to take a step back and adjust my thinking and actions. I know it won't solve all the problems, because he is still 3 and there will still be moments. But I know that this would help. And I need to make the effort, because it will make for a happier mom, happier son, and happier family. I've really dropped the ball lately, and it's time to pick it back up. I want to enjoy my family all the time and not feel utter frustration every day. I'm working on it, and I think that will be all the difference.

Parenting is not easy, and maybe that's what I lost sight of. If something isn't working for me, then I need to try something else. That's what it's about.


d e v a n said...

I'm glad the week ended well!

Nowheymama said...

We have lots of "three days" around here. :)

Cherish said...

I understand completely. Way to go Matt for the chocolate!

Kelsey said...

I'm glad things are moving in the right direction.

Something that helps me, from time to time, is to remind myself that even if we have a bad day, or bad instance (i.e. bedtime or lunchtime, etc.) that I can be the grown up and let go of those frustrations and begin again, even just moments later. Too often I get in this mindset and think, "Now the whole day is ruined!" Three-year-olds operate from moment to moment, so grant yourself the same power of starting over!

Melissa said...

Kelsey I really like your advice!

I know it's been a little while but I hope you are doing better with the little guy, nice to see your man is supporting to you (aka smart enough to bring chocolate :D)

You need to write more often :)